Sunday, December 5, 2010

My Holiday Gift To You!

Are you stressed just thinking about the holidays?
Then go to the beach.

The holidays can be a time of joy and fun. They can also be a time for worry and stress. So wouldn't be nice if you could get away to a peaceful beach whenever you felt overwhelmed? Well, you can...with guided imagery.

Guided imagery is a relaxation technique that uses the power of your imagination to calm your mind and body. Since your brain doesn't know the difference between reality and fantasy, when you daydream in a focused way, your body thinks it's real.

As my holiday gift to you, I've recorded a special guided imagery where I personally guide you through a 6-minute beach getaway. You can listen to it on your lunch break, before bed, whenever you'd like. You'll feel like you've just taken a mini-vacation. Looks like a little daydreaming can be a good thing after all.

Happy Holidays and Enjoy!

Wednesday, November 17, 2010


It's been said that you feel loved when your partner loves you the way you need to be loved. And it's different for everyone. So I asked people--men and women--one simple question: What makes you feel loved? Here's what they told me:


Knowing that my wife trusts me with her heart and her life. It is the most awesome and humbling responsibility.

When she makes my special macaroni dish.

When we cuddle up late at night, skin to skin.

I can't tell you how many people have told me that they've never seen my new wife this happy. Ever. To think that I can be that person for someone else...that makes me feel loved.

When she allows me the space to do the things I love.

Knowing she's attracted to me.

Feeling heard and appreciated makes me feel loved.


When things fall apart--anything from illness to a flat tire--he drops everything to help and be with me.

When he cooks for us, I feel loved.

After a hard day, we come together at night, and he tells me to come get in his arms, and tells me how much he loves me and what a good wife I am.

When we take care of each other, like when he brings me coffee in bed.

When he makes my lunch and packs it with a love note.

When he notices I'm not myself and is able to guess what's wrong before I'm even aware of it.

When he tells me he desires me.

Now It's Your Turn
Ask yourself: What makes YOU feel loved? Ask your mate. You can even ask your kids. I'm sure it will spur a great conversation!

Sunday, October 3, 2010


Lots of people rely on expensive creams and elixirs to maintain their youthful looks. But the secret to slow and even reverse your physical age up to 16 years or more is likely to be found in an unexpected place -- your emotions.

It turns out people who know how to deal with life's inevitable stresses have better health, fewer wrinkles and less gray hair. In other words, their bodies are younger. If you'd like to slow your body's aging process using your emotions, try these tips.

3 Steps To Get Younger

1. Connect with Supportive People: This is the most powerful way to slow the aging process. Dr. Michael Roizen of the Cleveland Clinic suggests the physical anti-aging benefits of being with caring people can be up to 30 years! When you're dealing with hard times--whether a major illness or a family crisis--make sure to get the help of friends, family and organizations.

2. Avoid Aversion Thinking
: When stress happens, we don't like it. That's when we use aversion thinking--wishing things were different--such as: "I hate this situation," or "I wish I had a better job." Instead, try accepting your situation, even if you don't like it, by saying, "Right now, this is what it is, so how can I make the best of it?" That doesn't mean you won't try to improve your circumstances, but you won't add to your stress by fighting with it.

3. Meditation: When you're stressed, you often think of the future and everything that can go wrong like, "What will happen if I can't figure this out?" Meditation is a simple way to keep your mind focused on the present moment, the only place you have any real control in your life. Here's a simple meditation to help keep you grounded.

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

3 Small Steps To Make Big Changes In Your Life

Lots of people think they need a giant explosion in their lives to make the big changes they want. But they don't. As a wise counselor once told me, "You tackle big changes by working on small pieces." I believe she's right. So here are three small pieces you can focus on today to set the stage for big changes.

3 Small Steps To Make Big Changes In Your Life

1. Do One Thing Differently: Sometimes change can be difficult because you're so used to doing things the way you've always done them. That's a habit. To undo habits, find one thing you can do differently today: change your hairstyle, rearrange your bedroom furniture or take a drive in your brother's new red sports car! This primes your brain to think in a new way. What habit can you change today?

2. Change Your Identity: Old habits can tie you to an old identity, and that can stop you from having the life you want. Here's how it works. Maybe your identity is, "I'm the person who doesn't know anything about managing money." Jump into a new experience--like taking a money-management class or joining an investment club--and you shift how you see yourself ("I'm the person who knows how money works!") and that makes big change possible. How is your identity holding you back, and what can you do to change it?

3. Connect with Supportive People: Change often works best with cheerleaders along the way. Just one person who believes in you can make a world of difference. Find those people, and get their support. Who will support you?

Saturday, July 24, 2010

How To Survive A Personal Crisis

Sooner or later, we all have a crisis in our lives. It might be the death of a loved one, the end of a treasured relationship or the loss of a job. So how do we manage the emotional turmoil that comes with a sudden or unwelcome change?

3 Ways To Survive A Personal Crisis

I've found 3 strategies help me and my clients when life's low points arrive:

Supportive people: Rely on the caring people in your life during hard times. There may be moments when it feels as if others seem to carry you when you cannot carry yourself. Open yourself to their generosity and allow them to help you.

Stay in the moment: When a crisis arrives, it's natural to jump ahead to the future and worry about what problems--real and imagined--might lurk ahead. While it's good to be prepared and informed, it's also good to stay focused on the present, and take it one step at a time.

Feel what you feel: When emotional pain hits, you may want to run from it and bury yourself in distractions like busy activities or work. But running from your feelings just makes them hang around longer. Accept your emotions and allow them. Sometimes you may need the support of a counselor or therapist to do this so you can be guided and supported along the way.

Tuesday, June 1, 2010



Tuesday, June 22, 6:00pm PST


Listen to this complimentary call, and you’ll discover:
  • What is your Trait-20 Profile and why it’s so important to your success in life
  • How your life can improve in every area—from love to health to career and even income— when you know how to use and strengthen your Trait-20 Profile
  • How to boost your Trait-20 Profile Score
  • Exciting details about my new Trait-20 Private Consulting

Thursday, March 25, 2010

Did you know your success in life can be traced to the 20 thoughts and actions you take most often?

I call it your Trait 20TM-Profile. People with strong Trait-20TM Profiles:

  • Make more money
  • Age up to 16 years more slowly
  • Have better health
  • Enjoy more fulfilling relationships
Imagine if YOU were one of those people.

Sunday, January 10, 2010

The Dr. Darlene Mininni Show

The last episode of my radio program, The Dr. Darlene Mininni Show, aired Sunday, December 27 on KTLK in Los Angeles. It's been a blast producing and hosting the show -- more fun than I can say.

Thanks to all you listeners for your support and enthusiasm. And special thanks to all my wonderful guests who shared their inspiring stories.

If you'd like to listen to selected show recordings, go to my PODCAST PAGE As for me, I'm busy creating new ways for you to live better and be happier in 2010! Stay tuned! XO!